“But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.” Paul, the Apostle
Okay friends, here is the deal for today’s edition of #LAST70DAYSOF2013. If you do not define you, other people will define you for you. And you will forever be frustrated if you keep living life on another person’s term. And this is the root of all life’s complication because every human being you will meet in your life will have his or her definition of you and no two will ever be the same. So you can imagine what happens when you leave your identity to be defined by the tens of hundreds of people you will meet in your entire life. That will definitely result to identity crisis for you. And so long as you live in identity crisis, your chances for success are limited and chances are that you may never succeed at all.
It is dangerous to leave the definition of your identity in the hands of men. People have different expectations and so when you leave that assignment to them, they will define you based on their personal level of understanding, which at all times is always lower than the identity God has given you. People will only want to fit you into their personal mould which can most times be very selfish. To so many people, their identity was destroyed right from their homes where they faced different kinds of abuse from people meant to love them and care for them. As they result, they have relegated themselves to those ugly experiences and have allowed those experiences to give them definition. If you see people who are being abused and victimised, you will notice that these people are always associated with identity crisis. Sometimes, I just wonder what rights people have to define others. In most cases people have not even defined themselves too. So, it will be very catastrophic if you let others define you and it now happens to be people who do not have clear picture of who they too are.
Whenever someone is suffering from identity crisis, what happens is the integration of such person’s ideas of themselves with what all the things others think of him or her. Such person then finds it difficult to find a niche for his or her life even though such person may have be gifted and equipped for a specific niche. When this happens, the victim can become confused about the role he or she is meant to play in the web of life.
Why is it important that you combat any identity crisis today? It has been proven that people with suffering identity crisis often seem to have no idea who or what they are, where they belong or where they want to go. They may withdraw from normal life, not taking action or acting as they usually would at work, in their marriage or at school. They may even turn to negative activities, such as crime or drugs, as a way of dealing with identity crisis. To someone having an identity crisis, it is more acceptable to them to have a negative identity than none at all. I am sure this is not the kind of person you desire to be or the kind of life you want to live. I am sure you want to live life to its fullest just like you have been promised by God. That is why you must combat any form of identity crisis today, and or help someone whom you know is suffering this around you.
How do you combat your identity crisis?
1. Find out who you are in God: You have come according to the volume of a book written about you. That book is the Word of God. In it is your true identity and person. While men would call you all the things that their human mind can comprehend, God in His book written about you called you a royal priesthood, a chosen generation, a tree planted by the riverside, apple of God’s eye, the beloved of God, and you are engraved on His palm and so many others. To find out these and more, you must keep your eyes on the word and meditate on it daily. By so doing, your real identity will be revealed to you. Whenever someone identifies you with an identity not in line with God’s word, reject it immediately.
2. Believe who you are in God: Beyond finding out who you are in God, you must believe in who you are in God even when it does not seem like it. Sometimes, who you find out that you in God may be different from who you see now on the outside. You have to believe it until you become it. If you do not believe it, no will and no one will stop identifying you with your human tendencies.
3. Confess who you are in God: Even when it doesn’t seem you have found confidence in who you are in God, just keep confessing it to yourself and to God. Remember that the world you see today was a product of spoken word. The you that is in you can only manifest through your confessions.
4. Love who you are in God: It is that simple. Do not wait for someone to love you for who you are. Love yourself for who you are in God. That is the first rule to success that we most often overlook. No one can love you like you and that is why no one can see you like you. Anyone who does must have been touched by God for you sake.
5. Act who you are in God: Do not act like you need some buckets of pity all the time. In fact, the more you seek for pity from human beings, the more vulnerable you become. You must daily act like a son in the house of his father, not a slave. Apart from seeking pity from people, you must also avoid self-pity as well. Walk with your shoulder high, knowing you belong to the most high. Assert yourself at all times and exhibit confidence in who you are in God…
Prayer: God will open your eyes to the real you from today and for the rest for your life. You will not miss out in being who God has created you to be in Jesus name, Amen.