“Be angry but sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath”…. Ephesians 4:26
Sometimes, I am forced to believe that our emotions have done much damage to us than other things in our life. Many of us depend on our emotions and how we feel about people and situations to take decisions in life. But because we are human beings and our emotions are controlled by what we see, touch or feel, operating then at the level of emotions can be very dangerous. This is why it is important that we control our emotions, and not us being controlled by our emotions.
Looking back at failed business, families, relationships, contract and all those in 2013, there may be other reasons why the failures occurred but a critical and sincere examination will definitely revealed where we took decisions based on what our emotions suggested. You cannot afford to go on into 2014 with life at the level of emotions. No one ever fulfils destiny and purpose, or achieve a considerable level of success depending on emotional drive. The only time our emotion can be of use to it is when we have learnt to become emotionally intelligent (which I may discuss in the course of the #LAST70DAYSOF2013 series). Even though it has been said that “the best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart”, we must be careful to identify the boundary line between when our emotion becomes our master and when they are of good intentions. If we cannot identify that point, then we are headed for a crash. I am sure that is one of the reasons why the Bible admonishes that one should guard his or her heart with all diligence as it is from it that all the matters that concern how our life is piloted flows from.
There are people who went into relationships they were not meant to in the first place because the determining factor for going into a relationship was their emotions. There are people who lost so much money in business because the contract or business they invested in was chosen based on how they felt and not on guided decision making process. There are people who chose a course of study at the university or a career to follow simply because they were overwhelmed by their feelings and emotions. There are people who lost worthy relationships because they got too angry or too suspicious of their partner and those emotions took control of them, leading to the end of their good relationships.
Unless we learn how to control our emotions, we will lose credibility, hurt ourselves, make wrong decisions, push people away and miss great opportunities in life. However, your emotion is like a car: properly understood and directed it can take you places; but out of control it can destroy you. Most people have a knee jerk reaction that isn’t necessary controlled by the rational or sensible side of their brain.
So are we saying you should ignore your emotions (because there are emotions that are good, for example, being happy, a feeling of love or being loved, longing to care for others, etc)? No, that is not this is all about. Controlling your emotions doesn’t mean ignoring them. It means you recognize them and act on them when appropriate, not randomly and uncontrollably whenever you feel like it. Take control of your life by taking control of your emotions.
I have found these steps on how you can control your emotions have more control over your life in 2014 and by so achieve better success as well.
– Do not act immediately: Reacting immediately to emotional triggers can be an immense mistake. It is guaranteed that you’ll say or do something you’ll later regret. Before refuting the trigger with your emotional argument, take a deep breath and stabilize the overwhelming impulse.
– Ask for divine guidance: Faith in God is our saving grace in our darkest moments. Developing a healthy relationship with God will help you surmount your obstacles more easily. This is because when you believe in God, you also believe in the power of divine intervention to show you what you must do, teach you why something is happening or even save you from a certain unwanted situation.
– Identify a healthy outlet: In controlling your emotion, you’ll need to release it in a way that does not hurt you or the people/situation involved. Emotions should never be bottled up. Call or go see someone you trust and recount to them what happened. Hearing an opinion other than your own broadens your awareness.
– See the bigger picture: Every happening of our lives, whether good or bad, serves a higher purpose. Wisdom means being able to see past the moment and discern the greater meaning of any given situation. You may not understand it in the beginning, but as time goes by, you’ll begin to see the bigger picture falling into perfect order. Even in the midst of an emotionally upsetting moment, trust that there exists an ultimate purpose which you will come to comprehend soon.
– Make the right choice: When deciding what to do, it’s important to make sure it’s a conscious choice, not a reaction to another, competing emotion. For example, if someone insults you and you do nothing, is it your decision, or is it a response to your fear of confrontation?
Control your emotions and control your life!
Prayer: You will not fall victim to your emotions in 2014. You will be continually led by the Spirit of the Lord in all your dealings in Jesus name, Amen.