[Monday Success Reflections with Apeh] 17: 5 more Lessons from 3 Decades of my Life 

[Monday Success Reflections with Apeh] 17: 5 more Lessons from 3 Decades of my Life 

Hello Friend,

I believe your Easter break was worth it and gave you the opportunity to reflect, prepare and re-enforce your passion towards you vision. It was a good time for me as well. You may remember that last two weeks before the Easter break, I started a reflection on my life lessons of 3 decades. Today on #MondaySuccessReflections, I want to complete that discussion. I want to appreciate you for finding time to be with me every Monday on this series. If it blesses you, share with a friend or recommend to someone.

So, drawing from the book of Psalms 90:12 again, where King David wrote, ‘So teach us to number our days that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom, let’s go and ruminate over life!

1. Life is more about impact than of gain

I have lived here long enough to understand that life should be more about impact than gain, and that if life must ever be about gain, it must be gain just for the purpose of impact. This is because I don’t want you to think that I am trying to separate gain from impact or vice versa but I am trying to say that it is better to live a life of impact without gain than to live a life of gain without impact. I have had lots of gains in my life but I have had more times impacting lives with my gains than focusing on the gains alone. I cannot remember every man who lived and gained all he could but I can remember as much names as possible of men and women who lived for impact or for gain with the purpose of impacting their generation.

2. Life’s value comes from living purposefully

I have also come to realise that it is easier for people, including members of your own family to disdain or scorn you when you are yet to discover your purpose. I have also seen how that turns automatically and you suddenly become a celebrity when you discover your purpose and begin to walk in it. The fact is that we all may not have fathers and mothers who believe in us and so for those of us like that (and I happen to be one of such), until life’s purpose is discovered and lived out, do not expect value to be placed on your life. Governments, organisations, and people only value your life (words and actions) only when they begin to see the glimpse of purpose around all that you do.

3. Life will give back to you what you gave to it

I have lived enough to know that there is now free lunch anywhere. Even favour is highly priced. To gain favour, there are protocols to follow. Sometimes, your good will is all you need to get back from life. Sometimes, it is your love towards others, sometimes, life may require the seed of prayers and hard-work and at other times, it maybe a helping hand you gave to someone. And I know, it can also be a seed of your vision that you gave to life that life will give back to you. It took me several years of consistent study, hard-work, self-belief, faith, vision and just a string of favour to get a scholarship for my PhD. Unfortunately, some people think I just woke up woke up one morning, applied for a scholarship and boom! I got it!. No, not like that. You must give to life whatever you want life to give to you.

4. Life is most beautiful with love in it

If you wonder why my life is so beautiful, I will tell you that it’s because I have filled my heart with love. This is the only one virtue I know that makes the world go round. When you hate or create things that make people who are meant to love you develop hatred for you, you will begin to notice that your life will begin to lose its beauty. Also, I have surrounded myself with people who know how to and what it means to love. At the most difficult situation of your life, it is such people who will truly make a difference in your life.

5. Life without tough times becomes weak

Sometimes, because of our human nature, we simply expect life to treat us with simplicity. I do not think that is what is obtainable at all times. Sometimes, life confronts us with the highest level of difficulty with the sole purpose of making us strong enough to be able to face what lies ahead. The degree of strength you command is actually correlated to the degree to which your life has overcome tough times. You will not do yourself any good by allowing someone to sooth your emotions with the notion that ‘everything is gonna be alright’. Sometimes, everything can only be alright when you fight! S, you need to stand up and fight so you can overcome weakness in dealing with life.

God bless you as you apply these lessons in your own life and I pray they will work for you as they have always done for me.

Your friend in Success and Excellence

Apeh Omede

@jabulaniapeh, @ApehOmede, @SuccessConverge

Team Leader – LifeExcel and Convener, SuccessConverge


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