Monday Success Reflections with Apeh: 30 – Reader’s Survey

Monday Success Reflections with Apeh: 30 – Reader’s Survey

Hello Friend,

Last week, I decided to do something different with #MondaySuccessReflections. I asked you to help me with a readers’ survey. I am yet receive your response to the survey. Kindly find time to fill it out for me so I that I’ll be able to provide you with better values.

Like I said earlier, I will serve you better if I know you better.

My greatest desire is to provide you with smart and actionable solutions that will help you achieve success in your everyday life. images

For me to do that effectively, I need to understand what your most important needs are and how you want me to help you with them.

I want to know what you think about my posts and how to make it better for your benefit.

I have put this survey together with that in mind. Kindly respond to the following questions as honest as possible in the survey (link below).

I desire to see you excel!

Find the survey here:

http://bit.ly/1qOchWz

I am really expectant to hear from you. Thanks for your time.

I still remain…..

 

Your friend in Success and Excellence

Apeh Omede

@jabulaniapeh, @ApehOmede, @SuccessConverge

Team Leader – LifeExcel and Convener, SuccessConverge

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#MondaySuccessReflections: 28 – Overcoming Complacency

#MondaySuccessReflections: 28 – Overcoming Complacency

Hello Friend,

It’s a beautiful week for me. I hope it’s same with you. I started my week with a powerful twitter hangout on #Audacity2Lead with my friend, Dayo Samuel, discussing ‘PURPOSE-DRIVEN LEADERSHIP‘. If you missed it, you can check my twitter timeline to see everything I shared yesterday.

So, here we are today for another edition of #MondaySuccessReflections. Let’s discuss Overcoming Complacency today, hoping it will be of great help to you. The dictionary defines complacency as a feeling of calm satisfaction, quiet pleasure or security with your own abilities or situation that prevents you from trying harder.

Many people are not succeeding today, not because the resources they need are not within their reach but because they are too lazy and care-free to stretch out and maximize these resources. Complacency is a killer of success. Why it is so dangerous is that a complacent individual is never aware of the potential dangers or defect of his apathy towards himself/herself or others around.

According to Pat Riley, in his book, ‘The Winner Within, complacency is the last hurdle any winner must overcome before attaining potential greatness. So, it implies that any complacent person towards his/her own life is robbing himself/herself of the potential to become great.

Where does complacency come from? Complacency is a product of false feeling of satisfaction; absence of a major, visible crisis; low performance standards; lack of performance feedback among many others, As a Christian when the desire to know more of God through His word and to fellowship with other believers, complacency can set in. images

What are the dangers of complacency? Complacency leads to a drop in standards and the efforts that had previously brought success to a complacent person. Because of the false feeling and satisfaction we receive from past success and glory, there is this tendency to give up all our passion and drive. At the time of complacency, we let down our guard and tend to relax. For a Christian, it can lead to disconnection from your spiritual source. These are reasons why we must totally avoid becoming complacent.

If you are already entangled by complacency, you can overcome it today. These are way to achieve that.

  1. Embrace creativity in your daily life.
  2. Become accountable to someone.
  3. Set a deadline for your goals.
  4. Raise your standard very high.
  5. Get rid of visible signs of success.
  6. Remain always motivated.
  7. Delight yourself in God’s word

I do not claim that these are exhaustive ways to overcome complacency but I can assure you that applying these in your life will definitely help you win the battle over complacency.

So, I hope that this week, you will not struggle with this weakness but move to a greater level of performance in your work and life. Have a successful week.

I still remain…..

Your friend in Success and Excellence

Apeh Omede

@jabulaniapeh, @ApehOmede, @SuccessConverge

Team Leader – LifeExcel and Convener, SuccessConverge

BBM: 74200893

 

 

 

#MondaySuccessReflections: 27 – Maximizing Your Relationships

#MondaySuccessReflections: 27 – Maximizing Your Relationships

Hello Friend,

It’s another week of #MondaySuccessReflections. It’s also the first day as well as the first Monday in September. See how time flies. And we are just about 121 days to the end of the year….that’s more than half-way into 2014.

So, my friend, as you can see, we have no much time again to waste. If we must meet our targets for the year, we must learn to maximize every opportunity that God brings our way. One of such opportunities is the relationships we have with people God brings into our lives and across our paths.

Today, I want to reflect on maximizing your relationships. I am sure you must have heard of the popular John Maxwell’s mantra stating that ‘everything rises and falls on leadership’. But I dare to say that ‘everything rises and falls on relationship’; because even leadership on its own cannot exist until a relationship is first established. This is how important relationship is.

Just look around you. You see people from different class, tongues, tribes, nations and colours, yet in one way or the other you are connected to each of them at one level or the other; you share with them and learn from them. It’s so powerful to know how relationships have transformed many things in the lives of many of us. images (1)

Growing up as a young person, one of the things I learnt from one of my mentors was the power of relationships. When I look back at those relationships I was able to maximize, I have no regrets.

Time will fail me to discuss how I have been blessed by them all. Let me share with you a few things I learnt on my way trying to learn how to maximize your relationships…

  1. Understand the purpose of the relationship

Just like you exist for a reason, same way, everyone in your life is there at the moment for a purpose. This understanding is the common way to avoid abuse of any relationship.

Someone is in your life or you in someone else’s life to either model a lifestyle, motivate to the next level, mentor to begin to fulfil potential or help to multiply positive results.

You must understand what any person in your life is there for or what you are in other people’s life to do.

  1. Understand the level at which the relationship is

Everybody in your life is not at the same level of relationship and so it is with you too in the life of other people.

This means that when you treat all of them as if they are on the same level, you’ll not be able to maximize your relationships. In relating with people, someone would either be your down-line (someone you are higher than and looks up to you), your contemporary (someone who’s at the same level of class, knowledge, skills, etc with you that you share notes with) or your up-line (someone above you that you look up to).

You must understand where everyone in your life is and properly give them their due respect and expect same from others as well.

  1. Understand the goal at each level of the relationship

You will have to determine what you want out of each of the relationships in your life no matter its purpose or level. It is not enough to understand the purpose and level of a relationship in your life. You must be able to know what you want to get or give. This will help you maintain focus in any relationship and avoid any distractions that could destroy your relationship and rob you of the blessings in relationships.

  1. Understand the kind of relationship it is

Are you in a business-customer, Leader-Follower, Lover-Lover, Teacher-Student, Mentor-Protégé, etc relationship? If you do not know the kin d of relationship you are into, how would you be able to define its purpose in the first place?

For example, if you do not know you are in a Lover-Lover relationship, you may receive the sock of your life when he proposes or when she shows you her wedding card.

But when you understand the kind of relationship existing in your life, you will then be able to set understand its purpose and establish the right level and goal

If there is just one advice I have to give you for this month, it would be: MAXIMIZE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS.

I still remain…..

Your friend in Success and Excellence

Apeh Omede

@jabulaniapeh, @ApehOmede, @SuccessConverge

Team Leader – LifeExcel and Convener, SuccessConverge

BBM: 74200893